I love reading these posts about your adventure into newly married life and also motherhood. ❤️ I moved states in September, and got married in November of last year, after spending six years in a city that had provided such a bountiful community for me in my single years. Now I live in a new city, navigating making new friends with my husband’s friends and also meeting some friends on my own. I always forget how long it takes to truly build community in a new place and how much vulnerability is needed to reach out to others in order to get there. I’m sure with motherhood it is even more important and also provides other challenges too! You are an amazing friend, so I’m sure those you are meeting are so blessed to know you now and have your friendship! 🙂
Oh Gabby you are such a dear! Thank you for your kind words. You have been through so much in such a short time--and yes, building community takes such time and effort! I hope this new season is off to a great start for you and I hope your community will be blossoming in no time <3
We moved to a state where we have no family but after almost 5 years now I feel so confident that we have cultivated true friendships and we’ve felt the love and support in both the big things and the small. I think being the one to make the first move, extend the invitation is the way to go! So many people feel worried that the effort won’t be received so they just don’t do anything but most people are so happy to be asked to coffee, dinner, play date etc. Especially other mothers!
Also, not being afraid to accept the invitation when others offer. I’m pretty introverted so it’s easy for me to make excuses but that connection needs to go both ways
I love reading these posts about your adventure into newly married life and also motherhood. ❤️ I moved states in September, and got married in November of last year, after spending six years in a city that had provided such a bountiful community for me in my single years. Now I live in a new city, navigating making new friends with my husband’s friends and also meeting some friends on my own. I always forget how long it takes to truly build community in a new place and how much vulnerability is needed to reach out to others in order to get there. I’m sure with motherhood it is even more important and also provides other challenges too! You are an amazing friend, so I’m sure those you are meeting are so blessed to know you now and have your friendship! 🙂
Oh Gabby you are such a dear! Thank you for your kind words. You have been through so much in such a short time--and yes, building community takes such time and effort! I hope this new season is off to a great start for you and I hope your community will be blossoming in no time <3
We moved to a state where we have no family but after almost 5 years now I feel so confident that we have cultivated true friendships and we’ve felt the love and support in both the big things and the small. I think being the one to make the first move, extend the invitation is the way to go! So many people feel worried that the effort won’t be received so they just don’t do anything but most people are so happy to be asked to coffee, dinner, play date etc. Especially other mothers!
Also, not being afraid to accept the invitation when others offer. I’m pretty introverted so it’s easy for me to make excuses but that connection needs to go both ways
So true! So glad you’ve found/made community where you are—being far from family isn’t easy! It definitely takes work and time but it is so worth it.